How to Boost your Confidence
by Amy Phillips
Amy is a serial entrepreneur, advocate for women living life on their own terms, and 100% positive in knowing that your mindset controls your reality.
She is the founder of Making Her Magic, and works with women to go for their aspirations and feel supported and celebrated in ‘the hard stuff’ in life such as building a business, changing jobs, moving cities and setting those BIG, scary goals.
Having confidence will mean something different to everyone, but all that matters is that you are feeling that self love that will light a fire inside of you to keep going. That ‘fire’ can be motivation, confidence, enthusiasm or a growth mindset that allows you to believe you can evolve, grow and learn all while loving the process.
Confidence; “the feeling or belief that one can rely on someone or something; firm trust.”
That someone meaning you. Let’s get into how you can build trust & love for yourself.
1. Get to know you for you
Have you ever sat down and truly thought about who you are? What have you achieved? What did you learn from those experiences? How do you want to be seen and treated? How do you treat others? These questions are important to get to know yourself because it gives you a baseline of self reflection and core values. The ability to self reflect and establish core values is such a fun way to get to know the best version of you, and who you want to be. Remember: you can be confident while working towards your best self. Every version of you is unique, special and important.
2. Self awareness
Something that is spoken about a lot in the personal development world, but very little is understood about it from a clients point of view. Self awareness is not only the ability to see & hear yourself as you respond and react, but also can be used as a learning tool. This tool gives you the power to acknowledge what environments make you feel better, or worse, and what people or things trigger you the most. This isn’t to say that it makes it easy just to run away or avoid these people, places or things, but it gives you an opportunity to reflect on those feelings that come up, and gives yourself the space to process them accordingly.
3. Compassion
To others is important, to yourself is necessary. You are only human, you have gone through things you didn’t think you’d make it out of, and yet you’re here. Giving yourself compassion while on the journey to self love and confidence is the greatest tool to have in your mindset kit. Use this while showing yourself acts of kindness, such as nourishing your body, resting when you need to, and diving deep into your favourite book just because you feel like it. There doesn’t need to be a rhyme or reason to why you perform certain tasks or activities for yourself, you just have to show compassion and kindness within them in order for you to get the most benefit from them.
4. Cheer on your damn self
You’re the only one who knows what you’ve gone through, what you want to achieve and how you want your life to look like. Maybe you want a steady job, a romantic partner, or a healthier lifestyle. Whatever it is you are aspiring towards, don’t ever forget to cheer on your damn self!
YOU should be your biggest cheerleader, because trust me, no one else is going to be watching you as closely as you are. Confidently tell others what you are doing and what you have achieved, and do so unapologetically!
5. Know that you are 1 in 400 trillion
In a 2011 TedX Talk, Mel Robbins announced that the chances of you being born are 1 in 400 trillion. I don’t know about you, but I can’t even wrap my head around how many zeros that is. 1 in 400 TRILLION! You made it to where you are today for good reason. You are already a superstar for being able to read this damn blog! Remember that although you are working on yourself, working on loving yourself, and working on being the most authentic version of you, there is always time to appreciate how far you have truly come, just by being here right now.
If you follow me on socials or listen to my podcast, you would already know the kind of ladies I like to preach to; and it’s you. It’s the lady who shows amazing skills but doesn’t know it. It’s the lady who shows up every day for herself without fail. It’s the lady that knows although she might be working on herself, she is perfect just the way she is. Wanting more from life and from yourself is not a bad thing, and it doesn’t mean that you have to dislike any aspect of those things you have currently. Life is full of ups and downs, but there is always one consistent; you.
If you need an extra hand to work on your self confidence and self acceptance, I am taking on 1:1 clients now for my private life & mindset coaching service. You get to decide what you want to work on, and with a little help from me and my experiential advice, you will come out the other side of coaching with the tools and strategies to show up as your most confident, authentic self. You can sign up on Amy’s website here.
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